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So....we made an island...

I honestly cannot believe that Baroness woman suggested that but this is the mentality of some people in power. This is an horrific thing that's happened but what isn't needed is sweeping generalisation or more societal division. Everyone should be coming together and for once, ideas should be shared on prevention and education rather than turning it into a political point scoring circus.

I'm referring to those that instead of taking a minute to show some solidarity with their fellow humans, prefer to make it about all about themselves🙂

Hopefully you consider here safe, my friend

For those who read the original post and say, "Well, look at us? We don't really have active women gamers in our group." No, we don't. And, I hope to change that. But, it took a lot for me to say "F*ck it. Let's actually join in the fun here. Maybe they live up to their own expectations that they aren't the typical toxic guys in the gaming world that have generally kept me from even opening my mouth and actually made me change my PSN handle." Women make up for almost half the gamers in the world. Women are the ones who used to be the majority in creating and coding. But, you will rarely see a woman in a serious aspect of gaming. And, if a woman, in general, wants to succeed in streaming, let's just say skills with a makeup brush and how low-cut of a top can be worn are more important than actual coordination with a controller or k/m. I do not take myself seriously in gaming competitions or group play. Could I grind D2 as much as my husband and my friends? Sure. But, you also have no clue how much mental effort it took for me to be okay with the multiplayer aspect of the game and be willing to subject myself to potential online harassment. They talk about the fun in the salty messages they get after a Crucible match. But, do they know the flood of sexist messages I would get if I left my handle the same? If I even dared to speak on team comms if it wasn't with people I knew? I can't imagine how many pissed off players were created when I would run around Crucible with Drang and Rat King... only for them to be all "Did I just get killed by a female warlock?"... then to double check my profile and wonder "maybe it's a guy just playing that. It has to be a guy." The sexual harassment I experienced in my teens and 20's... I could not take it if it leaked into my gaming world sanctuary. So, my handle is changed. My profile is private. You can't friend me unless you are someone I know (or know someone who is already my friend). You can't message me either. And, I will not talk on comms if I don't know you. I will help you. But I will not talk, as I do not need my gender getting in the way of me helping you.

This is a touchy subject for me. (So, fair warning) It was Women's International Day on Monday. The topic of sexual harassment and assault has been one of the prevalent discussions happening everywhere, and I, for one, am highly amused at the saltiness from men, in general, about it. Fun fact about me. I am in a way proud of my profession as an Executive Assistant (because rich and powerful people can't seem to find a f*cking elevator button unless you explicitly tell them or how to cross a street or how time works in general). But, it is one of those things that angers me to no end. My conversations that I have with my teammates when it isn't about getting something done, it's about how that even though we do at least half the work of our C-level Executives who "run the world", we are no more than indentured servants who were generally hired for how pretty we look in f*cking skirt. Our actual skills are just a bonus. My conversations with them tend to land on "imagine if we weren't women and what we would actually be doing instead?" Then, it's usually, "Now, imagine if we weren't a person of color and weren't a woman?" Do you know how many women end up in my profession straight out of college/university because no one actually knows that a young, 20-something female can actually be something else besides an assistant? For every woman who is able to avoid a company defaulting her into an assistant person, there are probably at least 20 women who tried and ended up an assistant. (I, however, always enjoyed the thought of being the level of assistant I am because 1) general work life balance, 2) I consider it a very well paid forever internship where I learn everything about how a company works, 3) the insane connections and stories that come with the job) Regarding Sexual Harassment and Violence, I leave these here (there is a reason why I train combat martial arts and not sport. It being fun is only part of it): And one more because this hits super close to home... and I can't believe that 20 years later, I'm still angry. https://www.instagram.com/p/CMUorwmrvgZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

There's been a conversation in the UK this week about the fact that women can't walk home from work without getting harassed, abused and occasionally murdered. Yet we have a whole bunch of men only concerned with saying it's not all men. That's empathy for you, eh. That's where we're at in the 21st century.

I'm sure she was but maybe she could have clarified that as she knows stuff like that would be taken out of context. Thing is and I'm sure it's somewhat different for women probably due to the greater threat of sexual assaults but we all want to be safe, I said before there are circumstances I try to or actively avoid as " it looks a bit dodgy" etc. Everything we do in life we subconsciously risk assess. There was a thread on twitter by a retired cop where he tried to put things into a little more perspective as the media generally goes full on fear/ hysteria when something horrible like what happened happens. From what I've read the advice was don't go out alone. Someone said the only time women were told to stay at home was during the jack the ripper era that happened round here. This thread has definitely moved away from the op 😉

Wait. What? That sounds bonkers. I just want to feel safe going out at night by myself without fear of getting kidnapped, assaulted, killed, etc. Not infringe on people's freedom lol. However, my basic understanding is that she was trying to make a point and wasn't serious about the suggestion. And, her point being that society typically tells women to stay home if they want to be safe and no one blinks an eye at that. But, the moment such suggestions are made for men, it's just a crazy thought.

While there is some truth to that it is missing some context, unless you also believe as was stated in parliament that men should have a 6pm curfew 😉

3/13/2021 Workout Squat Workshop 15-minute time under tension at 50% 1 rep max (115lbs) Thoughts: So, Coach Tim is on vacation... and he left Coach James in charge of the lifting stuff. I was not prepared for a semi-cardio workout. He allowed us 1-minute rests before we had to get back under the bar. We were to do a semi-slow squat until we started losing form. Not until failure. Until we were "uncomfortable." I joked and said, "soooo.. like 2 reps, right?" Knowing that we were going to be doing high-reps, I adjusted my depth to only slightly below parallel. Lost count after 55-ish reps. My legs are toast. But, I'm still gonna go check out some Eskrima/Arnis/Kali in about an hour. 😆

It's not a good thing if the game will put you in a lobby where you have a bad ping just so you're playing with people of the same skill. Ping should be the number one priority for matchmaking. It should be ping>skill not skill>ping.

Don’t go to Carl for anything about cars, he’ll link you to this... ...then you’ll binge watch them as they are funny in a British sort of way. I’m on episode 25 and enjoying every minute

OOOO cars!!! I'm 36 have have had 40 vehicles thus far, current stable is the mentioned '05 R53 Mini JCW, my '68 Pontiac LeMans, and our '58 Chevy Apache.