So, yea, I am sitting here raging, and I am not sure if its justified or not.
So, as some of you guys might remember, my son is Autistic. We have had a butt-ton of issues with local bullies, the school, and neighbors. It's just not been good. Needless to say my wife and I are protective. Here is why I am raging: I have an uncle who offered to pay for my son to go to Disney with my parents. My dad hasn't seen his brother in a few years. My dad also helps with Homeschooling my son (He teaches Math and History). I tried to reach out to my uncle today to talk about the concerns that my wife and I have. We were honestly considering letting him go. My son has some days where he is able to tune out/ filter himself from too much activity really well. However he always needs a day of "safety" afterwards where everything is low key and he can decompress in his space.
On those safety days, someone would need to chill with him in the hotel room, letting him do his own thing. So anyway, I reach out. I immediately get shut down in my trying to explain a few things about my son. I then get told off, and how my son was only invited because he doesn't take up any space, and how my uncle only wanted to see his brother.
I replied with "Well thanks for the offer, but no thank you, My son won't be going."
Thats when I get cursed at with shit like this: "My son, your cousin, is also Autistic, I know what to do and how to handle this. He's going to be a goddamned comedian after we were able to fix him"
All I could say was "Wow, You have a nice day" and then I hung up.
.........
My phone won't stop ringing with family calling me.
Why the fuck even make the offer, if you are going to be an ass about it.
If its a bad time to talk, then say that, and reschedule
But to be fucking rude about something important like this?
To blow off and claim to have 'fixed" someone thats autistic.
My wife said that this was the best possible outcome though, because now we know, from that one moment of honesty that it was not a good idea for my son to go on that trip.
Still, I sit here with the knowledge of knowing I denied my son a trip to Disney that he would have enjoyed a portion of.