Haven't experienced this much. I was doing a main quest with Tyler and we both had to do the interactions for the quest to continue so we were both on the same page, that's all.
It's definitely a lot better. Obviously the reluctance was there, this crap should have been there at launch but you know what? I spent the $60 on it so I figured what the hell, I'll give it a go. Not really playing anything else anyways.
Got my own private server and that cuts the lag down quite a bit especially when you're doing events. I guess the big 'draw' is just helping each other with our quests, trying out different legendary weapons/armor and base building. There are daily and weekly challenges. I've finished the main quests so now i'm looking into doing these more. I'm trying to discover the whole map and i'm also trying to get a good 'class' together. Leveling up after 50 is a bit like chess in you gotta be careful with what you're picking. I'm trying to get into crafting alcohol so I can sell it for caps to buy more plans. I know some of the guys are into trading with other players, visiting their bases and buying things from them. They got some cool mutagens from some of them. They also farm material a lot more then I do. The game is what you make it, I guess?