Team Death match on tactical pacing 6v6 is quite normal maybe a bit slow, but not chaotic.
Kill confirmed is also good, I love Domination personally.
Patrol is a nice change, it's like hard point but the objective is constantly moving.
Play about with the pacing options, tactical is normal, assault is a few extra men each team. Blitz is nuts and absolute Carnage.
I would avoid Shipment and Das Haus if you don't want to get stomped on. Great fun, but they are wild!