Sorry man, that blows.
It happened to me a few times back in the Vault and Scrota days. So I can empathize
That being said, stop doing crucible, and I will join you more!!!!!!!!
EDIT:
Oh yea, if people want to raid and I am in a raid, just let me know, and I will swap out. I love to raid with you guys, but I am 100% cool with bailing out to go do something else. Every Raid has Spouse Burn for me, so if I can stop getting aggro, and taking damage from the resident Omni'Gul, then its a good thing