Well don't Jonny. Everyone gets in a rut from time to time. If you get envited to drinks that doesn't mean you have to drink a beer. You can stick to soda. Plus have you tried reading to pass some time? It used to really help he to just read a good book. What about collecting things? That's one way to get out of your shell and meet people. There are always some sort of convention for collections,gaming ect. It could be a grateful way to meet a lady that has some of the same interest as you also. I sounds to me you have became really complacent. Try mixing stuff up from time to time. Join us for some banter in party chat some. If it's just to hear us abuse diddums or to hear Lee giggle.