You confronting her infront of her Dad probably seems more like you're tattling on her. You're going down to her level in her mind. "oooh, he's telling on me in front of my dad, lol, I'll show him."
Try approaching her as one adult to another. Talk to her how you would another adult. Explain to her in private that you feel like she's being very disrespectful to you and you don't appreciate it. Flip the situation and ask her how she would feel if you did x, y, and z. See how that approach goes.