I don't mind and frankly its impossible for you to upset be on the subject. We're friends and I don't think that's likely to change. In the best possible meaning, I don't need your approval and having it or not having it doesn't matter to me, we're friends either way. I certainly won't say your religion is wrong, although I will say your belief Islam is not a peaceful religion is. One must understand the traditional Arab mind to really grasp it, and to be frank its a lot of heavy lifting to do so. Way more than I can do in an internet post, although I can refer you to several books if you are truly interested.
First off, you can't read the Koran with a modern western mindset and truly grasp it. We are a literal minded people. Arabs are not, especially traditional nomadic Arabs. Threats of violence are generally cathartic. Like the Indian counting coup, its a way to wage warfare without injury or loss of manpower, which is incredibly desirable in any tribal people. Losing two or three men to conflict, even if you win, may deplete you too much to survive the environment or other tribes. Even today road rage is HORRENDOUS among Arabs, but they both know they are just talking. They never really fight. You cannot apply Western logic to what they say. There are rituals and rules to say things in a certain way if its meant to be taken literally, and that goes from anything from meeting at a coffee house to declaring war. I can go into this more later if you like.
As for why I converted, you have to remember I lived in the Middle East for two years. Not sequestered on a military base, but out in the population. Most of my friends were Muslim, and they generally seemed happier than my Western/Christian or Athiest friends. I've got to head into work for an overtime detail, but again I can go into this more if you like.
The lack of literalism appealed to me greatly. It is impossible for me to accept any of the three books as literal truth. However as allegory they work very well. I'm more concerned with orthoproxy than orthodoxy, and Islam has something very much like Karma. Do good things and be rewarded. There's actually quite a bit of flexibility. Can't fast due to age, traveling, pregnancy, etc? No problem fast when you can. Travel, war, some other reason you won't get around to fasting? No problem, donate to a charity that feeds the hungry. Fasting isn't for fasting, its for making you have empathy for the poor. That held great attraction to me, and the feeling I got from my first ritual fasting was more empathy for the poor than any church sermon I ever sat through. You FELT it. You felt the anxiety, you felt the need, you understood.
I certainly don't care what, if any religion, you follow. I certainly believe there are multiple paths up the mountain, so to speak. I also believe that most people with a mouth full of religion tend to have little of it in their heart, regardless of which faith they claim.